Saturday, June 13, 2015


We all have a favorite pair of jeans. 

Maybe they are our favorite because they hide our flaws while enhancing our attributes. Or, because they fit us like a second skin. Or perhaps even because we have worn them so often, they have worn down in all the right places, Whatever the reason, we prefer them over others. 

We wear those jeans so well. They uniquely suit us. So much so, we will keep them long after the worn-in holes have become inappropriate and look more shabby than chic. We will become almost defiant in the wearing of them. We can not be convinced to throw them out and will actually mourn their eventual demise. Afterwards, we'll search way too hard for a replacement and find the new pair rarely compares. 

When in the chaos of crisis and pain of trauma, the familiar can provide calm. The comfortable becomes a place of refuge. Whether a person, place, or thing, or even a state of mind, emotional outlet, or belief system, which is inherant in us, the comfort of the familiar can be a harbor amid the storm.

No matter how inappropriate it may appear to an outsider, or how frayed it seems to be around the edges, we must pull close that which helps us hold on to who we are. We need to treasure what helps us survive, without feeling the need to justify or explain to others why it is important to us.

If your favorite source of comfort is a person, share as much time with them as you can to heal and remain whole. If your favorite harbor is a place, visit it often and linger there to find your zen. If your favorite shelter of safe resides in an object, hold that thing near to you when you feel unease. If your favorite strength lives in an emotional or spiritual understanding, seek peace and knowledge within that foundation.

Like your perfect pair of jeans, when you're wearing them or merely staring at them in a wonderful discarded pile on the floor, having just stepped out of them, keep them close.

How we survive is uniquely personal. It is suited to us. Don't let anyone take that away from you. 

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